THE MASH UP: What the Alphabet Teaches Me about Relationships – “ABCDEFG… Ex! Why??? Zzzz.”
When I was a child I sang the alphabet (and I was a ham about it too- I’m sure). I don’t actually remember singing it but if I grew at all into my childhood personality I definitely wasnt shy about letters, words, or the theatrics. But little did I know that I’d go from XYZ to Ex! WHY Zzzz.
In terms of Exes and relationships of old, no matter how the ending, I always ask myself, “WHY? and What was my contribution to this not working out?” NO MATTER WHAT THE ENDING! I’m learning that even if it is one action that breaks the proverbial camel’s back and that action was NOT my fault I still ask how did I get here.
Too often I see folks break up with an Ex and never stop to assess before moving right on to the next soon to be Ex. Then dozens of interactions later and a longer laundry list of failed relationships they complain that they keep dating these deadend people… uhh duhhh! Evaluations are good… Don’t OVER THINK it or Beat yourself up. I just like to ask, “why didn’t this work?” We evaluate programs, systems, work performances so there has to be some value in taking a second to evaluate matters of the heart… or some other body part.
As for the final letter in our alphabet lesson (Zzzz)… it’s there to remind me when I’ve evaluated it for just long enough to find a lesson in it – PUT IT TO BED!!!
Are there any other lessons you think we can learn from the alphabet ?